Every book has a story behind it, and mine is no exception. In this interview, I talk about why I wrote the book, and explain some of the more controversial aspects of the book. Click here to watch a video of the interview.
I want to help people lead a great life. It seems like I have spent my whole life trying to learn how to be the best version of myself, and one of the biggest obstacles has been emotional upsets.
I regret that I created a lot of painful situations in my life — that hurt me and other people, until I finally learned how to process my emotions in a healthy way.
I’m going to make a bold assertion: Almost all of the pain and suffering in society is due to people’s inability to face and process their painful emotions in a constructive way.
I want to change that. And the mindsets, strategies, and tools in Dear Human, Master Your Emotions are a great start.
How to master your emotions so you can be your best self every day and practically all the time.
The best husband or wife, parent, friend, leader, co-worker, son or daughter— in short, the best person you can be.
Anyone who wants to improve the quality of their life.
Emotional mastery is key to success in every part of life— relationships, health, spirituality, work & prosperity.
If you want to have a happier and more fulfilling life then this book is for you.
Look, we are born into these bodies with this complex and confusing pallet of emotions, and no user manual. Humanity has been trying to figure it out for forever.
Look at the headlines, at the evidence of pain and suffering in your own lives—we’re still doing a terrible job of handling our emotions in a healthy way.
So, “Dear Human” is like a letter from a higher source finally giving us the user manual for our emotions we so desperately need.
Well, no. Not for most people. Not until they learn to understand themselves better, to develop Inner Mastery, starting with their emotions.
But once they do, yes you can practically all the time. You may still fall short occasionally, but it becomes a rare event.
Drama in movies yes, but drama in life? Not so much.
I’m talking about negative drama, not the positive, playful, funny, suspenseful, and enjoyable activities and interactions we have.
What’s so interesting about fighting with your husband or wife, blowing up at your children, suffering from chronic stress, feeling overwhelmed and victimized by life’s circumstances?
The lives of almost everyone are so filled with negative drama that they have a hard time imagining what it would be like to not have it.
But they yearn for it. For the loving and harmonious relationships, inner peace, enjoyment, pleasure, and the fulfillment it will bring.
We are born with many physical assets to enable us to succeed in life. Eyes, ears, arms, legs, and emotions.
Emotions are resources that act like messengers, bringing us the energy and information that we need to succeed.
Frustration for instance, brings an activating energy and its message is “what you’re doing isn’t working, try something else.”
Emotions are healthy until we either try to avoid them, misinterpret them, or act them out in a destructive way.
Everyone has a set of emotions that for them are “off limits.” They are either too painful or we have been taught they are totally unacceptable.
For many people these include shame, fear, anger, sadness, or grief; but they could be anything that an individual has learned to suppress.
For some people these even include happiness and contentment. Avoiding the black sheep emotions leads to most of the dysfunction we experience in society.
Addictions, suppression, compulsive behaviors, negative drama… over a million people per year try to commit suicide, in part because the emotional pain is too much—they would rather die than continue feeling that pain.
You may say that drama results in painful emotions. And that’s true, but the emotions we display are frequently not the ones causing the upset.
For instance, we would much rather be angry, resentful, or sad than face the shame we are feeling in this situation.
Most people have experienced “new year’s Resolution Syndrome” — we commit to some change in our life for the new year and within a short time go back to our old habits.
That’s because the part of the mind that wants to change — that’s the Pilot— isn’t the part that controls the behaviors — that’s the Autopilot, or subconscious.
All of our reactions are memories, and are controlled by the sub-conscious Autopilot.
When we get emotionally triggered, the Autopilot takes over the driver’s seat and starts running the show.
We have to be able to put our conscious pilot—what is called the “Executive Function” back in the driver’s seat and process the situation in a mature and healthy way.
That requires having a rich relationship with our sub-conscious, and the tools to enable us to reprogram the sub-conscious.